In our Luie journal you get to meet parents from the everyday life. Parents that inspire us!
Sanne Alexandra is an influencer, runs her own clothing brand and will also soon be able to call herself a holistic health coach. She shares about her tough start into motherhood and the importance of taking care of yourself to become a better parent – “Your oxygen mask first!”
Who is Sanne? Tell us about yourself!
– I’m a curious, happy and spiritual 32-year-old with a passion for wellbeing. I’m a mother to Frans and Selma, married to my Jacob and I run the clothing brand Sanne Alexandra Stockholm.
How’s life as a mother and influencer?
– Never lonely! When I was pregnant the first time we lived in Buffalo and didn’t have a very social life. But my followers were always with me. I love my channel and the energy it gives me, which is what made me continue working during both my maternal leaves. Life would’ve been so much more boring during my maternity leaves without my channel.
Tell us about your thoughts on holistic parenthood!
– I think, just like everything else in life, that everything is an entirety. How we sleep, think, move around, eat, our social life, our relationships – Everything affects us. In today’s society it’s easy to drown in all methods and do’s and don’ts that comes with parenting.Unlike the first time with Frans, I think the same time with Selma has been very different. I felt like I had finally found myself again and what makes ME feel good. I let go of all the methods, the musts, and everything suddenly became so easy.
– When I first became a mother in 2018 we lived in the middle of the city with stress and high energy, and I had a hard time saying no. I didn’t work efficiently and became stressed if our home was messy when we were expecting guests. I had walked right into that classic trap where I wanted to be able to manage everything perfectly. I was a “people pleaser” who didn’t think highly of myself, and I didn’t manage my sleep, food or exercise the way I should. The second time I had really figured out what gives me energy and excluded things that only stole my energy. Suddenly I was the old Sanne again. Technically I should be more tired now with more work and two children instead of one. But after I learned to be careful with my recovery, prioritizing what’s really important and shutting out other people’s opinions, life became so much easier, with and without children.
Your best lifehack as a parent?
– Make sure to plan for recovery and take care of yourself first. It’s like they say on the airplane – put on your own oxygen mask first!
What would you have liked to say to yourself when you became a mother for the first time?
– Keep doing what feels right in your gut and don’t work away from what feels natural. Dare to normalize that your baby falls asleep on your chest and stay home instead of going to that dinner you don’t want to go to. Do what feels right for you and ignore all methods and inventions that don’t suit you. Let go of your performance anxiety and remember what “a good mother” means to you.
How do you remember your time as a new mother?
– I remember the first eight months mostly just as cozy. From eight months it was pure and simple exhaustion! Eight months followed where I forgot everything called taking care of myself. When having a baby, you need to take more time to recover, something I didn’t do.
What was it like to go from one to two children?
– Like magic! To go from zero to one child was a huge difference but actually not to go from one to two. I respect that this is different for everyone, however, for us I just felt like we became a family in a whole new way. We often take one child each!
If you have ever worn a sling – tell us about your experience!
– I’m a big believer in closeness and to carry your child is something we’ve always done. The sling is amazing for a little relief in the arm so you can get other things done as well. Selma was born when Frans was 2,5 years old and I used the sling a lot with her so I could simultaneously play with Frans, cook and bathe him. A child carrier sling is a true lifehack.